SELF LOVE: LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF

I wanted to dedicate this post to not only myself but to my friends and the people out there who find it hard to love themselves. Loving yourself is the most important thing in life. I have a friend who inspired me to write this, because she believes she won't find someone who likes her due to her being plus size and I feel like there's so many people out there that put themselves down, so if you are one of these people, then please carry on reading. I want you to listen to my own personal experience and views and realise that you are beautiful the way you are.

Sometimes in life, things get you down, and you always find things to put yourself down and the internet is something which affects many of us. I know this from my own experience. Everyone will always look at another person on Instagram and compare themselves (I do anyway) and it is something which cannot be helped sometimes. Sometimes you will look at other people and think 'Why don't I look like that?' or 'Why can't I have what they have?' but that's okay. It's okay to be different, it's okay to not have everything that someone else has and it's okay not to look exactly the same as someone else. If everyone in the world looked the same, it would be boring.

I know that a lot of people can be so so horrible and you will always be judged no matter what you look like and what you do. The internet is a good one to mention because someone will always find something to say and won't be afraid to say it because they are hiding behind a keyboard. It is so easy for someone to make a nasty comment on a post on Instagram which you have uploaded or a YouTube video you have posted, all because you are plus size, or too skinny, a weird shaped bum or nose, or even if you are gay or a lesbian. Something is never right in this world and there are so many things which people can fault, but these things have to be ignored. You cannot let words hurt you and you have to know that these people mean nothing to you, and that you have so many people around you who love you for who and what you are. These things are what matters the most in life.

Personally, I thought I would never find a boyfriend because I thought I was too ugly and too big for guys. Guys have said some mean things to me in the past and so have girls, just because I may not be pretty enough or weigh a bit more than most people. I am a size 16, and have always grown up thinking it was wrong because I was bullied and had so many people call me fat. But now that I am older and almost 21, I've realised that it's actually okay to be plus size and that I am not the only girl in the world who is plus size. I have a family who love me, friends who love me and a boyfriend who supports and loves me for everything I am and everything I do, so nothing else matters to me. As long as I have these people in my life, then that's all I care about. I have started to ignore what people think of me and done my own thing, and it has helped me so much to be happy.

Even though I'm plus size, I do try a lot of diets to help me to lose weight and I am pretty healthy. I eat fruit, vegetables and yoghurts a lot, drink at least 2 litres of water a day and also go to the gym 2/3 times a week. I do eat a pizza now and then with some chocolate but I do not want to be a size 16 my whole life, because its not what I want. But, I am still happy the way I am and being this size does not affect me in any way any more, because I've learnt to accept who I am and learnt to love myself.

If you don't think you are beautiful enough, then you have to realise that you are and that it's okay to be your own individual. It's okay to be gay, bisexual, transgender, lesbian, skinny, fat, a different race and everything else which people tell you is wrong and may be horrible to you about. Loving yourself is the key to happiness and don't let anyone else tell you that you're not beautiful the way you are, no matter what you look like, who you are or where you come from.

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